Why shouldn't women confess their love for someone? Why shouldn't we go for the person whom we have feelings for and just say "I love you"? Is it because we fear rejection? Or do we fear being judged? Or that we were programmed that women should be "chased" and "pursued" by men?
Is it so bad as a female to confess my love and emotions... Does saying "I love you" make me less of a woman?
The society built an image that women should act a certain way to get a guy's attention. I can never act this way. Someone told me that I act in a friendly manner and men don't like that!! What? Why? Why must I play mind games to be "desired"?
Why are women controlled by so many rules even when they are in love? Why is it wrong for women to take the first move? I'm a shy introvert, and that makes confessing my love or emotions something very difficult, but that doesn't have anything to do with my gender.
Maybe some men like "chasing" women. But it's not a hunt. At least in my opinion. Love is better than this. Love is more than a game.
Love is thinking about this person when you wake up and finding it very difficult to stop thinking about them. When you find yourself dreaming about them and praying for their success and happiness. It is full of pain and tears, but somehow it also gives power and makes you smile.
Love is wanting to tell them everything about you and accepting their silence. It is the most beautiful thing in the world and shouldn't be controlled by any kind of rules.
Because of these rules, I try hiding my feelings, I try acting like I don't care, despite that his presence means everything to me. I'm trying to break these rules.
I consider myself a feminist and I believe in equality, but somehow, I stop myself from saying "I love you"!! Why?? What is the worst thing that could happen??
Love doesn't mean you're weak, confessing your love doesn't make you gullible. It doesn't affect your dignity, even if the feelings aren't mutual...
It takes a lot of courage to say how you feel. It takes a lot of strength to be who you really are. I hope I find the courage to confess my feelings and to just be myself.
Women are often worried about "What do guys think when a girl confesses" and ask their friends if they "Should I wait for him to confess".
The worries of women reach the point of after the confession, "What happens after you confess to a guy" or "What do guys think when a girl confesses".
It's frustrating and overwhelming.
The point is: say how you feel, don't be stuck in traditions or stereotypes that women shouldn't say "I love you"…
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