Being labeled "sensitive" is often used as some sort of an insult. Some people say the phrase "you're too sensitive" to make your feelings and emotions less valid.
I have been called "sensitive" many times, which made me feel the need to hide my sensitivity, tolerate situations that I shouldn't accept, and shy away from expressing myself.
Sometimes people use "you're too sensitive" to manipulate and gaslight you. To make you feel like you're too much and too difficult to handle. To make you think that you can't deal with criticism.
By the way there's a big difference between criticizing someone and insulting them. and gaslighters usually use "you're too sensitive" to get away with an insult.
Women are often manipulated to think that showing emotions is a weakness or even a sign of being "crazy" or "overreacting" or "dramatic". And to direct the blame to women in any situation. To gaslight us to think we're wrong.
I was called "sensitive" when I pointed out to anyone that they did something that hurt me. When I try to stand up for myself. The correct response in this situation should be a discussion where I can explain why I felt hurt and how they can stop doing things that aren't good for me. But no, they decide to make me feel I'm the one who made a mistake.
You get called sensitive when you try to explain yourself or when you set boundaries in how people should treat you.
If you're feeling that someone is mistreating you then you're probably right, you're reacting to the energy that you're receiving, and you should trust your gut feeling.
How to deal with a situation when you're being labeled sensitive?
-Understand that your emotions are valid and you have every right to express them.
-If the other person's words or actions are something that you would never say or do to them (such as a comment on your looks) then you're not overreacting.
-Be aware that being called "sensitive" shouldn't be used as an insult or a way to control your emotions.
-Try to understand what the other person is calling you sensitive, are they avoiding an apology or trying to make you feel inferior or ignoring a boundary?
-Acknowledge that someone who truly loves and respects you, will never use your emotions against you.
-Know that the response when you express your emotions shouldn't invalidate them.
-Never apologize for being you and for showing emotions or expressing yourself.
-Don't overthink yourself and trust your feelings.
Next time someone calls you "sensitive" take a general look at the situation and understand their motives. Don't let people manipulate you.
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